Tuesday, October 9, 2012

The Friend Zone, part two: Musings

As we've seen, the friend zone is a state of being to which people, mostly guys, are consigned when date-able (at least on the surface) women do not consider them as mating options. Either these dudes stick around, or she insists upon the arrangement, hoodwinking him with vague assurances of a potential romance.



But there's another huge, fundamental pitfall in it for a man. Being friends with someone is a committment. No? It involves maintenence like even a family relationship: returning calls, texts, and emails. Attending events and engagements together, etc.
But if a woman is desireable enough to have guys being her pal in the hopes of dating her, then she has options. And she's keeping those options open.

Why?

Because all she has to do is sit on a barstool somewhere, and prospective lovers will appear before her. She doesn't even have to lift a finger for it to happen.

But for you?

You have to be on the go to find prospective romantic partners. You have to be hussling it like a salesman, either sending out emails online or walking up to them, as strangers, to introduce yourself. You must follow up in proper fashion.

Folks, this doesn't happen sitting next to her on Friday and Saturdays as she gets hussled. It doesn't happen with her girl friends, who likely view you as platono material as well. It doesn't happen listening to her carry on about the guy that does interest her, you know, the one she is having a fling with, or wants to have a fling with.

When guys stop with this garbage, then so will women.